Are You An Abuser?
Do you consistently ridicule, criticize or insult your girlfriend or boyfriend?
Have you broken their things or thrown things at them?
Have you forced them to have sex, or intimidated them so they are afraid to say
no?
Do you make them account to you for every moment they are away from you?
Are You A Victim of Dating Abuse?
Are you frightened of your boyfriend or girlfriend's temper?
Are you afraid to disagree with him or her?
Have you been repeatedly wrongly accused of flirting or having sex with others?
Have you been afraid to say no to sex?
Dating Violence Myths & Facts
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It Can't Happen to Me |
More than 1 in 10 teens experience physical violence in their dating relationships. |
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Jealousy and Possessiveness Are A Sign of True Love |
Jealousy and possessiveness are a sign that the person sees you as a possession.
It is the most common early warning sign of abuse.
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Victims Bring on the Abuse
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Perpetrators believe they have the right to use abuse to control their partner,
and they see the victim as less than equal to themselves.
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If A Person Stays in an Abusive Relationship, It Must Not Really Be That Bad |
People stay in abusive relationships for a number of reasons: fear, economic dependence,
confusion, loss of self-confidence, not recognizing that what's happening is abuse,
belief that the abuser needs their help or will change.
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The Dating Person's Bill of Rights
These rights are for both women and men - heterosexual, lesbian, bisexual gay or
transgendered
- I have the right to trust myself above all others.
- I have the right to decent treatment by anyone I date.
- I have the right to have and express my own feelings and opinions.
- I have the right to be listened to and taken seriously.
- I have the right to set my own priorities.
- I have the right to ask for what I want.
- I have the right to refuse to date anyone.
- I have the right to be safe on a date.
- I have the right to be assertive.
- I have the right to pay my own way.
- I have the right to ask to pay for the other person on a date.
- I have the right to mutually consenting and pleasurable sex.
- I have the right to refuse to have sex.
- I have the right to be treated with respect.
- I have the right to disagree with my date.
- I have the right to say No without feeling guilty or explaining why.
- I have the right to get angry.
- I have the right to fulfill myself with or without another person in my life.
- I have the right to leave any situation I don't like.
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I have the right to a healthy dating relationship.